BDSM for Beginners

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AdultCity: BDSM for Beginners

BDSM. It stands for Bondage, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism and is all about control. One person relinquishes it while the other takes it. While BDSM may appear scary and like something from your nightmares, it can in fact, turn you on big time and free you from sexual hang-ups like you’d never imagine. Read on to see some of our beginner tips to embarking on a sultry and awakening BDSM adventure of your own.

 

Take it Slow

Rule number one, before you even being with the crop and cuffs, is to take it slow and make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. If you and your partner have never dabbled in kinky sex before, diving head first into a BDSM scene is almost guaranteed to scare each other off and ensure you’ll never want to dip your toe in the BDSM world.

Communicate

A BDSM relationship is essentially about growing as individuals and as a couple, and exploring your sexual sides to lead to a fulfilling sex life. The second rule of a BDSM relationship is to communicate. Many people who are into BDSM look at it as a lifestyle, not just something contained to the bedroom. To know each other’s boundaries, what makes you tick and what you expect out of your to-be BDSM relationship, you and your partner need to sit down and hash out your expectations and boundaries. BDSM has the potential to be the most fulfilling sex of your life but has the potential to cause serious damage to a relationship without real communication, so if you’re considering entering into a BDSM relationship, communication is key.

Safe Words

Safe words are a fundamental part of a BDSM relationship and should be figured out before you try any kind of role-paly or scene. A safe word is a word that stops everything when one member isn’t comfortable with what is happening or where the other partner is willing to take things. Some couples use the stoplight system; green means go – carry on and continue because everything is great! Yellow means slow it down or take it down a notch when on partner is nearing the edge of what they can take and red, of course, mean stop immediately.

Fetish and Bondage Toys and Add-Ons

Outline what equipment you want to use and in what way. This is mainly a safety concern, like using condoms, soft rope for tying people down, or specially made whips and gags.

 

Jumping from vanilla sex to letting your partner tie you down, gag you and spank you, might be enough to put you off BDSM for life. So don’t be afraid to be specific and clear: maybe you want your arms to be tied up but not your legs; maybe you’re okay with being called certain names but not gagged; ordered, but not hit. On the other hand, be sure to make sure you’re not asking your partner to do something they don’t want to, it’s perfectly okay to not take pleasure in, well, anything.

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